From Marie posted on 2009-04-01 08:54:12
Thank you for posting the results of the tests. Take care, hoping and praying the rest of your family stay healthy. Rest in peace Ryan, I miss you much!
From Helen Moody posted on 2009-02-20 22:47:15
Dear Netty, Dave, Ami and Rhys
I met Ryan in Brussels 3 years ago when I was an english assistant. I had a great time with him, eating a kebab in the Grande Place, and we had a great time watching family guy. I am in shock about his death, but I wanted you to know what a wonderful guy he was. I will miss him so much, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. love Helen
From Victoria posted on 2009-02-19 09:33:46
Dear Netty, Dave, Ami and Rhys
My thoughts and prayers are with you all today. I'm sorry I can't be there.
I hardly saw Ryan once he had left for university but to read all these tributes gives a picture of a truly good, respected and well-loved man, a son, brother and uncle you can all be so proud of.
I hope that time brings the explanations and comfort you need so much.
Lots of love,
From Sonja De Backer posted on 2009-02-18 12:45:22
I only worked for a short time with Ryan during our time with Laga, but I will miss him. He was such a nice and funny guy, full of support to all who needed help.
From Jenny posted on 2009-02-18 09:28:46
I was shocked and in great disbelief when I heard of Ryans death.
I cannot stress enough how nice of a person he was, he would go to great lengths to try and help with any problems I may have had and would always know how to put a smile on my face.
I feel priviliged to have known such a wonderful person.
I will miss you Ryan
From Aurelie posted on 2009-02-17 15:18:37
I believe we all hardly can understand the early loss of such a brilliant person as Ryan, who had so many projects and interests. As a former colleague, I appreciated his conversation and personality, revealed around daily cups of tea. His intelligence together with his taste for irony and humour made a very unique mix that compares with
his passion for both litterature and comic strip heroes...
My condolences to his family.
From Marianne posted on 2009-02-17 14:31:01
Dear family and friends of Ryan,
My mind has been preoccupied with Ryan ever since I heard the news of his sudden death. Only four months I have been working with Ryan but I could already tell he was a very special, funny and helpful person. I will never forget him. Please accept my sympathies.
Marianne (colleague Europolitics)
From Emily Dodds nee Brooks posted on 2009-02-16 13:23:44
I am shocked and very saddened to hear this tragic news. I remember Ryan from school. He was such a fun, lively and lively person, and I have many fond memories of him at Carisbrooke High School.
He will be sadly missed and my thoughts and best wishes go to all his family and friends.
From Fabienne Fonder posted on 2009-02-16 10:00:59
From Ryan's former colleagues at Laga law firm, Brussels.
We would like to extend our and deepest sympathy to Ryan's family and friends for their loss.
Ryan was much appreciated during his stay at our firm where he showed dedication and brilliant writing skills.
We also enjoyed Ryan's vitality and personal drive albeit his plans to write a novel or learn new languages. Achieving these goals would have definitely led him to happiness. Everyone at Laga is saddened by his passing and we keep fond memories of his time with us.
From Jean Cotton posted on 2009-02-15 20:15:35
Dear Jeanette and Ami,
I hope you don`t mind me contacting you both. I read about Ryan in the County Press, I couldn`t believe it. Another young and well loved person taken from us. Our son, Michael died last April at Brighstone while riding his motorbike. I just wanted you to know I know exactly what you are feeling and going through. If you ever want to meet for a chat please don`t hesitate to contact me. Best wishes. Jean.
From Kay Tosdevin posted on 2009-02-13 22:14:30
Ryan, im finding hard to know what to write, except that you are going to be very much missed. My heart goes out to your mum, Dave, Ami and Rhys. Am still in shock as to why you were taken from your life so soon, when you had achieved so much in your young years and in what you still wanted to do. will always remember you for your great humour, wit and intelligence. rest in peace xxxx
From Roz posted on 2009-02-12 23:17:13
Dear Jeanette, words can't always express the feelings of the heart. Behind all the emotions, all the questions, all the anger, all the tears, there is a gentle heart that shines, that wants to be content, that wants to be away from pain. It is the love that looked after him all his life, and that continues to look after us all. When sadness and tears fade, the heart will still be there, remembering the good times, the love, remembering the best and letting go of the worst. I know your heart will shine again and time will heal.
Best Love, Roz
From the Adams family posted on 2009-02-12 16:39:28
Ryan will be greatly missed. We didn't see him often but he would suddenly be there, he would always talk, ask after everyone and say that life was treating him well and that he was enjoying himself and bless him he still called me auntie making me feel even more my age. I still think of the times at mums when all the kids would play together creating havoc and realise what good times they were. There's no words we can say how we feel. Our thoughts and love are with you all. Terry,Tony,Stewart,Darren,Nick,Carrie and Hannah xx
From Jan Richardson posted on 2009-02-11 21:48:59
My thoughts are with you at this sad time, Jan
From Peter Mason posted on 2009-02-10 08:23:36
I am so sorry for your loss.
I have read all these messages and the picture of a wonderful man comes through them: a sharp mind and an inspiring friend.
I am thinking of you and your kindness and you are in my prayers.
From Helen posted on 2009-02-10 00:08:46
Ryan, I have some good memories of gladstone street, and bringing pizza late at night from dominos and you, henry and mischa devouring the lot! those were good times. I'd get round there after a day of college to find the three of you watching FLCL and eating those chocolate covered sticks from china world, and noodles. lots of noodles! thankyou for all the leonard cohen cds you copied me, you got me into a good thing there. such sad news. my thoughts are with your family. helen x x
From Bev, Gerry, James, Laura, Paul, Marie, and Lucy posted on 2009-02-09 15:51:19
We all can't believe what has happen. Our thoughts are with you all, He's still in good hand . Wish you all our love and condolences.
From Tori Cann posted on 2009-02-09 10:29:39
Ryan, you were so funny, it's odd because, most of our correspondence over the past few years, since you left the 'wilds of Norfolk' as you put it, have been over the internet, and now I'm writing here, now, in these circumstances.
I very much enjoyed our conversations when I was in my first year, I would look forward to coming on msn and having you cheer up my afternoon when I would otherwise be feeling sorry for myself. This is what I will remember you for, and this is what I will cherish if I ever begin to feel sorry for myself again.
Did you ever finish the novel that was going to make you into that literary icon, or was all that comedy 'stuff' you were downloading from limewire too distracting?
Big Love Ryan, you will be missed.
My thoughts, condolences and love are with Ryan's family and friends who were fortunate enough to know him so well.
From Tom Sutton posted on 2009-02-09 09:31:21
Ryan, I can't believe that you are gone. I have such great memories of hanging out with you, Mischa and Holly at Gladstone St and watching Family Guy and your manga stuff. You made me laugh so much and were such a good judge of people: unsparing, fair and usually hilarious. Once I stayed in your room when you weren't there and I read all your comics - they were great, thanks. I'll miss you, buddy.
From Joan, Anita, Emily and Ben posted on 2009-02-08 15:58:19
Dear Jeanette, Dave, Ami and Rhys, still getting over the shock, just cant quite believe it, it only seems like yesterday playing the Wii at Christmas and us all having such a laugh. Ryan will always be in our hearts and thoughts, sending our love to you all. xxx
From James posted on 2009-02-08 11:10:36
I still in shock over this very sad news and would like to send my most heart felt condolences to Ryan's family and friends. I had not spoken to Ryan for a little while unfortunately. He was a great friend at University, always making me laugh so much with his sharp wit and observations. I will always remember his love of films and literature and his ability to write! He will be sadly missed, rest in peace mate.
From Uncle Paul & Michelle posted on 2009-02-07 22:03:00
We are in deep shock as is everyone at the news of Ryan's passing away. Our thoughts are with Jeanette, Dave, Ami & Rhys at this sad time.
Ryan, why is it that the good always die young? You had so many friends and fitted such a lot in such a short space of time. You will be missed by so many and will never be forgotten. May you rest in peace.
From Yolande posted on 2009-02-07 10:27:15
I've alwasy thought of the snow as all the people we have lost falling from the sky above. After Ryan passed away the snow fell from the skies. I hope every time you see the snow you will think of Ryan and how soft, gentle and bright he was. I know he loved his nephew Rhys very much and hope Rhys will remember his visits to the cinema with him and more.
My heartfelt condolences go to all of the family.
Love and hugs to Jeanette, Ami and little Rhys.
Yo, Casey, Kenzie and Heidi xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
From Auntie Za Za and Uncle Micky posted on 2009-02-06 21:19:17
We were so sorry and sad to hear about Ryan,and still can not believe it.Ryan was always a sweet little boy,and grew into a lovely man.We saw him up mums[his nans often ]he always came to see her when back on the island, bringing her cheeses and pates which she loved ,he was always thoughtful .Nan and Grandad loved him to bits[as they did all there grandchildren.Ryan was always full of chat about his mum,stepdad Dave,Ami and Rhys,his family were very important to him.I know nan and Grandad will be looking after him and am sure nan will be cooking him something tasty.
From Bethan posted on 2009-02-06 19:36:30
Ryan, It's quite strange now when that i log on to facebook i'm not met with 'BETHBETH!' in counter to my 'RYRY!' in order to get the first word in. I will miss winding you up about your hand bag and all the other things and i will miss having you jibe me about plenty too!
I've dug out that signed Athlete CD you got me and will keep it safe because it makes me think of you, i'm very sad that we didn't get the chance speak much before you left, i hope you're happy where you are.
My deepest sympathies to all of your family.
You'll be missed.
From Zara posted on 2009-02-06 17:06:23
Jeanette, I was so very sorry to hear about the sudden death of your son. I cannot begin to imagine how you or your family must feel. You have been, and will continue to be, in my thoughts and prayers.
From Janice Thorn posted on 2009-02-06 11:35:45
Jeanette, these words from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran on children may be of comfort to you - I know whenever I have wondered whether I was doing the right thing with my children, these words helped:
'And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, 'Speak to us of Children.'
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness,
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
From Emeric Zanetto posted on 2009-02-06 00:32:15
I cannot believe all this... I am greatly saddened by those news.
I met Ryan at Carrisbrooke HS on the Isle of Wight. I was his French language assistant in 1999-2000.
And what a student he was! So witty and bright, he could speak French very well already and I sensed a potential in him.
I took it upon myself to make him go to France for a year and study French in my hometown of Bordeaux.
He setlled very quickly and did very well. His passion for art in general and his exceptional sense of humour amazed me for a boy so young.
It was 9 years ago but I kept 2 of his hilarious e-mails that I still read from time to time.
I am at a loss right now...
So young and so bright. Fais chier...
I wish the whole thing could be the most elaborate hoax from a genius mastermind...
I will leave you on a quote from Ryan that I got in one of his very funny e-mails:
You should stop playing American 'football'. There is only one
kind of football. What you refer to as American 'football' is not
a very good game.You will no longer be allowed to play it, and should instead play proper football.
Initially, it would be best if you played with the girls. It is a
difficult game. Those of you brave enough will, in time, be
allowed to play rugby (which is similar to American 'football', but does not involve stopping for a rest every twenty seconds or wearing full kevlar body armour like nancies)
So British... Tu nous manqueras.
From Vicky Wharmby posted on 2009-02-05 21:53:18
My heartfelt sympathy to all Ryan's family and friends. Ryan was well loved. It is so lovely to read so many memeories from people who Ryan clearly made such an impression on in his life. You will be missed by all Ryan. I will always remember the Geography lessons at Carisbrooke High with Mrs Abbott and the bluetac animals! Only Ryan could have got away with that! He made so many people smile. Ryan was someone who I never saw unhappy, always saw smiling and will never forget. x x x
From Bex Bright (nee Harris) posted on 2009-02-05 21:30:46
My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to Ryan's family and friends - this is such a shock to everyone and a really difficult time.
He was such a fun, lively and energetic person, and I have many fond memories of him at Carisbrooke :-) - mostly involving plasticine!! if I find some pictures I will post them on here somehow!
Not sure if I will be able to make the funeral, but if I can't I will be thinking of you all.
Much love to all,
From rach posted on 2009-02-05 21:16:44
oh Ryan rat why do they always take the best ones first.I have so many happy memories of our weekends up nan and pops as kids,and they will stay with me forever.Reading all these messages just show me how much you were thought of and loved by all.You were a very talented man a cousin son brother uncle and friend that we were all proud to of known and will never forget.Nan Pops and Scott will be looking after you of that i am sure .Good night and god bless love you x till we meet again x
From Zoe T (Camp Hill) posted on 2009-02-05 20:55:54
It was a great shock to hear of your sad news. I am so sorry to hear you have lost your son so unexpectedly. My thoughts are with you, and with Dave and all your family.
My deepest condolences,
From Franceline Wynants posted on 2009-02-05 19:46:32
Ryan was a good person.
I'm still in shock and I don't know what to do, what to say.
My condolonces to family.
May you rest in Peace...
Franceline (Ryan's student 2005) - Belgium
From Huxley Stewart posted on 2009-02-05 17:50:53
I am shocked and very saddened to hear this tragic news. I remember Ryan fondly from school and we worked together for a number or years at Safeway in Newport where is laugh, comedic antics, and also great intelligence made work utterly enjoyable.
He will be sadly missed and my thoughts and best wishes go to the family.
From Pam D (Camp Hill) posted on 2009-02-05 16:35:46
I was really sorry to hear your sad news. Can't say anything to help you but thinking of you.
Love Pam x
From Rosa Jackson posted on 2009-02-05 14:41:52
Ryan, I didn't know you as well as I should have and I will always regret not making time to finish the last conversation we were having. It just seems like such a terrible waste that you will never get to do all of the things you had planned. I always appreciated the help, advice and sobering sarcasm you gave me. Condolences to all friends and family.
From Luke Wright posted on 2009-02-05 14:31:58
In 2003 Ryan and I spent most weekends together in the Concrete office at UEA making a magazine. It was a weird time, the office split down the middle. Half of us wanted to make an intelligent magazine, the other half wanted a cheap tabloid. Ryan and I would escape everyonce and while and sit on the balcony above the Hive and joke around and make withering comments about film and tv. He was a genuine wit and talent. One of, if not the, best writers on the paper, one of those guys you just click with instantly. I'm still kind of in shock about this, as I'm sure everyone else is. It's so unfair. My heartfelt love to Dave, Jeanette, Ami and Rhys. My love to you too Ryan - I'll miss you mate.
From Tracey Schepers posted on 2009-02-05 13:20:01
Ryan, I miss YOU, your laughter, your crazy jokes,,your great sense of humour. Your memory will never fade Ryan. You will always be in my heart. We will always have 'spinick'. I am sad when i think of you, that i will never be able to share moments with you. Hey, that's me a 'petasse'.your words Ryan...Thank you for being a great friend. May you rest in peace.
From GeneviÃ¨ve posted on 2009-02-05 13:09:23
Ryan, I can't believe you will not come back. I look at your chair and your desk and I think 'no, this is not possible'. I would like to thank you for all those moments when we spoke about Japan and the Japanese, literature, movies, and all those moments we spent laughing in the kitchen, waiting for the water to boil. I hope that where you are now, you can practice your Japanese and nibble on those terrible British sweets which you made me discover. I miss you.
From Dave Edwards posted on 2009-02-05 12:36:02
As you well knew I am an awful writer but I am trying very hard to make this message make sense or you would be correcting me.
I am so proud of you, I think you know this from our long chats last summer and Christmas. In the last few years you have grown up and I felt at ease with you making your own way in life. I know it made your Mum so sad that you had your independence and spent so long away but I know that to stop you would have been wrong. You have done things and been places that many will never do in a lifetime and to have your life cut short rips me to bits. I know you are now with your Nan and Granddad and say Hi to my Dad Joe (he also was proud of you) and of course lots of cuddles for the nuttiest bunch of cats ever - Roger, Bob, TJ and Tom.
I enjoyed us ganging up on your Mum about the telly. How will I ever argue with your Mum again without you here? Star Trek and Buffy are the things to watch and not soaps.
As for Duke Nukem and Bloodâ¦ we were 2 men obsessed and probably wasted 6 months completing these but it was fun! Still not played the games you got me since Christmas, I am an old fart and as you saw at Christmas I need you in multi-play mode as I am useless. I will try though and see if I can get to the next level where we got stuck over Christmas.
We had so many great times together as a family and I am so glad that you had a happy life. Every day you and Dad will be in my thoughts until I join you.
From Pauline Abbott posted on 2009-02-05 12:17:07
To all the family and friends of Ryan I extend my deepest sympathy. I had the privilege of teaching Ryan at Carisbrooke High and have many happy memories of him in class. It was a huge shock to hear the news of his death and I wish I could attend his final goodbye but distance precludes this. His sense of fun, wonderfully crazy attitude linked to such intelligence made him unforgetable. His, handmade small blue worms, snails and other tiny critters, which appeared with regularity on my desk, still bring a smile.
He will be deeply missed by many, this is so sad, he was a lovely person.
From MichÃ¨le posted on 2009-02-05 10:44:09
Witty, funny, smiling, spontaneous. Ryan generated a consensus around him and an immediate fellow feeling. It's so unfair. Please accept my deepest sympathy and support. Also, thank you for partly opening your family album. It brings us closer to you, and to Ryan. Ryan I miss you.
From Nick Woodford posted on 2009-02-05 10:01:15
Ryan, i remember us running around the tree at the top of nan and granddads road playing 'it',play fighting on their bed and generally having a great time being children, without a care in the world.
I last saw you when i was digging out my bosses back garden i was covered in mud, soaking wet and pushing a wheelbarrow full of broken cement blocks. I heard someone laughing, looked up and there you were smiling and ready to take the mikey!!
You will be missed. Im sure nan and pops will be looking after you. Take care cuz
All my thoughts with ami and her family.
From Sebastien Falletti posted on 2009-02-05 09:39:57
This is a terrible news. Ryan had a unique personality and was a great colleague and translator. His dream was to go to Japan and I had given him an appointment in Tokyo next year as a joke... His sudden departure give me even more reason to enjoy as much as possible my stay in the Far East.
Thanks for everything
Sebastien, in Seoul
From Tibor Szendrei posted on 2009-02-05 08:52:25
Ryan, you were the best of colleagues - amazingly bright, cheerful and always helpful, with a keen eye for quality and detail. Your stunning intellect shone through in everything you did. It was inspirational to work with you. Thank you for all that. Your memory will never fade. May you rest in peace, my friend. Tibor
From Carla Person posted on 2009-02-04 22:55:29
I loved Ryan as my best friend for about 4 years. He was an extraordinary person who knew how to listen and how to be there for the ones he loved and cared for. We used to talk every day and night. Even with the distance...him in Brussels and me in the USA, we always managed to find time to be there for eachother. We had ONE phone conversation while I was in Belgium in 2006. We wanted to meet eachother, but it never happened. I regret not seeing him, as he was a very special person to me.
In the little time that we really got to know eachother, I knew one thing from the get go...Ryan was a true person, so upfront and honest. I had so much respect for him. I remember when I wanted to move to Belgium that he offered me his old job at a law firm. He spoke very highly of me and I actually got the offer for the job thanks to him. He and I really looked out for eachother and I am so sorry I couldn't tell him in his last moments of his life just how much I appreciated all he has done for me.
There is nothing I wouldn't do to bring him back. I am selfish and do not want him to be anywhere else but here. Unfortunately, reality has struck and I know in this life, I won't see him or speak to him ever again.
My heart goes out to his family. I am a mother of a beautiful little boy and I can only imagine what Ryan's mom is going through at this time. I couldn't bare the loss of a son and I want to tell Ryan's mom that you are a very strong woman. I read what you wrote and my deepest sympathies go out to you, and the whole family as well.
I can sit here and write a book if I wanted to, but I will conclude my message by saying this:
My dearest Friend, Ryan...
I will never forget you and always reflect on all the good times we had. I sit here at my computer wishing you could sign on again on MSN...I miss you so incredibly much. You took a part of my heart with you because it always belonged to you. I carry you safely in my heart and I will never let you go. You meant a lot to me, Ryan. I love you, I miss you and we will finally meet one day...not in this lifetime, but I promise you we will meet on the other side. You will never be forgotten. Good Bye My Dear Ryan. May you rest in Peace...
Your Best friend,
Carla E. Person
From Nathalie posted on 2009-02-04 22:26:20
Ryan was also my colleague. I had often some words, short or longer conversations, always funny. Ryan had always a funny word to say, a smile on his face, a good story to tell. Several time in the day, while he was translating our articles, he also had these good words... about our articles... about everything. It could last few seconds, but enough to make the team smiling. I miss him, we all do. I want to remember him smiling, telling a joke.
Dear family members and friends, please accept my deepest sympathies
From Isabelle posted on 2009-02-04 21:41:05
This is so sad, so tragic. Ryan was my colleague. I can't say that I knew him very well. But I can say he was such a nice, sweet, smiling, listening guy. We are all shocked here. All looking every day to this empty chair, his desk full of superheros. Nobody can moved them. Super Ryan... this is so sad.
Mu deepest deepest sympathies go to his family and friends.
From Heather posted on 2009-02-04 21:33:10
I didn't know you Ryan, but your Mum has spoken to me so proudly and lovingly about you and your achievements. We identified because we have sons of a similar age and I know you will be so badly missed. You will always be in her heart. My prayers are with you all. Heather
From Jim Malia posted on 2009-02-04 20:53:58
I had the pleasure - I should say the privilege, of having Ryan for a while in French class at ABK. I didn't teach him very much, didn't need to: it all came to him so naturally. Quiet, unassuming with a talent he couldn't hide and so was promoted to the dizzy heights of Sister Bernard's 'top class'. And how he blossomed! I sometimes think that God is a jealous God - he takes the good ones young. Jim Malia
From Phil Colvin posted on 2009-02-04 19:01:40
I remember you, Ryan, coming to your first film writers' meeting at Concrete and volunteering for the most boring assignment on the slate just so you could do something. And you did it wonderfully. From that point, whether we were laying up articles on Japanese horror (years before the rest of the world discovered it...) or desperately trying to download movies we couldn't get into press screenings for, editing that film section with you was a great year in my UEA life.
You were always ready with drinks and toast whenever I rolled back into town after some travel or another, and on the end of e-mail with some wacky opinion on a movie or 80s children's toy when I finally moved halfway around the world. God bless.
From Michelle & Jon posted on 2009-02-04 18:57:00
We were so shocked and saddened to hear your sad news. We remember Ryan when he was at school with Dane and Chad and how they used to share their enthusiasm for 'Guns & Roses' amongst other things.
Ryan and all the family are in our thoughts and prayers.
From Europolitics Staff posted on 2009-02-04 18:52:12
Our colleague, Ryan John Stephens, passed away on 27 January 2009 in Glasgow. He was 28. Ryan worked as a translator for Europolitics for over two years. The memory of his talent, competence, intellect and devotion beyond the call of duty will forever remain with us. Rest in peace, Ryan.
Toute l'Ã©quipe d'Europolitique est profondÃ©ment attristÃ©e par la disparition brutale, Ã 28 ans, de Ryan John Stephens, dÃ©cÃ©dÃ© le 27 janvier dernier Ã Glasgow. Depuis 2007, Ryan avait su, par ses qualitÃ©s professionnelles et humaines, dÃ©passer le rÃ´le effacÃ© mais fondamental qu'occupe un traducteur dans la production d'un quotidien comme le nÃ´tre. Ses collÃ¨gues ont perdu un ami. Ils expriment leurs sincÃ¨res condolÃ©ances Ã sa famille Ã laquelle des mots de rÃ©confort peuvent Ãªtre adressÃ©s en Ã©crivant Ã cette adresse.
From Joe posted on 2009-02-04 18:51:39
Ryan, it had been a while since we last hung out, but I'll always remember those days sitting around in the Concrete office in the last year of uni. But even more nipping out for ciggies and people watching on the balcony when we should have been putting together the paper, talking nonsense and you listening to my myraid university grumblings.
Goodbye buddy, take care.
From Typhaine Rectem posted on 2009-02-04 18:45:31
I was one of Ryan's student while teaching in Belgium. We used to argue a lot about a bit of everything but we also used to laugh as much as we argued.
I still can't believe it, I'm really in shock.
I really learned a lot with Ryan, I really improved my English.
I kept in touch with him while leaving school.
All my sympathy to his family
From Fran posted on 2009-02-04 18:12:20
Ryan, I knew you whilst at University and working for Concrete together and I learnt a lot from you, most of it weird and very wonderful. You were the kind of person that inspired those around you â to pierce body parts, embark upon random topics of conversation, to speak openly and honestly. I remember some parts vividly â like reviving you after a particularly difficult piercing that ended in you fainting outside Styx or drunken nights when you let me talk nonsense at you, because you were like that â a great listener and a loyal, sweet friend. You will be so missed by so many people.
My heart goes out to those that knew you and loved you. You were funny, creative, thoughtful and strong-willed and you will never be forgotten.
With all the love in the world,
From Weber Dominique posted on 2009-02-04 17:25:17
My name is Dominique and I'm an English teacher in the first college Ryan worked for when he arrived in Belgium. I was there at the reception organized by our Ministry of Education to welcome him and the other new language assistants from abroad.
Then, we worked together for a whole year meeting twice a week at the ISES, Haute-Ecole Paul-Henri Spaak in Brussels. Ryan was loved by all his students, probably because he was pretty much the same age and shared the same interests but also because he could listen to everyone and then express a witty thought with a big smile.
He would also organize debates and discussions on subjects that would leave nobody indifferent. He was really dedicated to his job.
The sad news was passed on to me by an ex-student who had kept in touch with him and me. I'm really in shock and wish to express all my sympathy to his family.
From Joanna posted on 2009-02-04 17:22:53
Ryan was my colleague. We seated desk to desk. I still can not believe that he will never again come to the office. I miss him very muchâ¦
Who will now ask me all this teasing questions, who will tell me all these witty stories, who will answer my silly questions, etcâ¦the list is long. Life is so unfairâ¦I still remember saying 'see you on Monday' when he was leaving for the weekend before he died. I can not believe that he will never gain show up at his deskâ¦
Dear family members, please accept my deepest sympathies.
From Craig Abbott posted on 2009-02-04 17:02:29
I am deeply shocked and feel empty about this tragic loss to both the friends and family of Ryan.
I have many fond memories of the time we all spent at school and the antics both inspired and carried out by Ryan. I have passed on the sad news to my mum who had the privilege of teaching Ryan. I know he will be greatly missed and I hope where ever you may be now mate, your making those around you smile and laugh with little Blu-tack snails. RIP mate.
From Alan Hiom posted on 2009-02-04 16:42:50
I really don't know what to say. It's been such a long time since we last saw each other in Norwich but we did speak on facebook a fair few times before Christmas.
I'm shocked and my deepest sympathies go out to Ryan's family right now. I've lost family and friends close to me and there is nothing I can say or do that will makes this any easier. The bottom line is it's just not fair and you have my condolences, Alan
From Christina Berta posted on 2009-02-04 16:19:56
My heartfelt condolences go out to Ryan's family for such a tragic loss. Ryan was a wonderful colleague who will be sorely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
From Gilbert posted on 2009-02-04 15:06:20
Surpris et touchÃ© par cet Ã©vÃ©nement tragique, nous avons gardÃ© le souvenir d'une personnalitÃ© forte et originale dont le passage fut remarquÃ© lors de son passage dans notre Ã©cole, le dÃ©partement Ã©conomique de la Haute Ã©cole Paul-Henri Spaak Ã Bruxelles.
Toute notre sympathie Ã ses proches et surtout Ã son fils...
Directeur de l'ISES
From Joseph Malia posted on 2009-02-04 13:49:54
I grew up with Ryan, he was my best friend for many years. I have so many memories of Ryan that I will treasure, I owe him a lot and I'll never forget. To Jeanette, Dave, Ami and Ryhs, thank you for giving us a place to express our sadness, you'll be in my thoughts for a long time to come, I'm so sorry.
From Jeanette posted on 2009-02-04 12:42:33
My Dearest Ryan
You were the most precious baby son to me, so sweet and placid. I wanted you near to me for all my life. I never wanted to let you go. Sadly now, I think back to the steps in your life that gradually gave you your independence. On your first day at school I felt nervous for you. But you were just fine. The day you started High School I worried about you. And you missed the bus! But you excelled. The day you left the Island for University I was distraught. But you shone brightly and became a brilliant writer and linguist. The day you left this country to work in Brussels I was anxious. But you were talented and had a bright future. I had to let you go.
The day you died. And you are not here. I am inconsolable. No more brilliance, no more brightness. 'Out, out, brief candle.' I never want to let you go.
My precious, precious boy I had no time at the end to tell you how much I loved you and how proud I am of everything you achieved. I am heartbroken and I just can't bear to let you go. Memories of you will stay with me forever. Sleep peacefully with Nan and Granddad, from Mummy.
From Mischa posted on 2009-02-04 11:12:15
I have so many amazing memories of you, Ryan - from first meeting you in the Concrete office all those years ago at UEA, then you coming to our house party on Grosvenor Road later that day (I think it was that day).
Then there was the year we spent living together in that tiny house on Gladstone Street with Henry. None of us were ever employed at the same time and our days were filled with noodles and frozen food, endless Friends reruns, watching Neighbours twice a day, FLCL, loads of your weird manga stuff, selling Backlash outside gigs, trips to China World (which must have been your favourite place ever), late night chats and cups of hippy tea, you staying up forever translating whole books at random. I had so much fun in that house, and it was so great that you'd come back after your year away. Would you believe I still have and use the double duvet you bought me for my birthday to stop Holly complaining all the time? Possibly the best birthday present ever!
Most of all, I remember going to visit you in Brussels in 2007 (though it seems like yesterday, it really does), and how much fun we had over those few days. It rained so much, especially when we were walking in the park, but we walked all around the city - I have some great pictures that I will cherish forever. And your flat. I loved your flat. And Mariokart. I think I even managed to beat you once!
I learned so much from you and was so lucky to be your friend. You were stubborn as anything, but you had the warmest, softest heart - despite your vicious, wicked sense of humour. You had such an impact on my life it's impossible to sum it up in words. I was looking forward so much to coming to visit you again in the next few weeks. It had been too long since the last time and we were just about to arrange it all.
So, goodbye, buddy. You were a truly amazing, wonderful, brilliant person. I miss you so much. You'd probably think too much, actually, but tough. I think there's only one thing left to say: FACE!
From Betty Jackson posted on 2009-02-04 09:52:55
It was a joy to work with Ryan at Europolitics. He was a real pro: intelligent, energetic, creative and totally reliable! I'll miss him. My deepest condolences to all his family.
From Marie Edo posted on 2009-02-04 06:28:49
My grief comes in waves. One moment I'm feeling fine, next I'm nostalgic thinking about past conversations we've had. The last four years I've known you seem short and long at the same time. We used to dream, dream big together. I wanted to go to Europe, you wanted to visit Japan. You'd ask me phrases in Nihonggo from those Haruki Murakami and other Japanese novelists you're fond of reading. I'd ask you to translate phrases in French. I speak Filipino, English and conversational Japanese...you spoke English, French, learning Norwegian, Arabic and Japanese. We studied the same course back in college - Comparative Literature and we somehow moved in the same world - learning languages, discussing literary theories, postgraduate degrees among others.
I used to think someday we'll both reach that dream, finish our MA degrees. I really thought that would come to us in a few years. But you left me to continue that. You're gone, gone too fast, gone too soon. Without even giving me the chance to thank you for everything...though I must have told you before how thankful I am for those times you've been there for me, but still...I wish you're still around. I wish you're here to tell me over and over again that I'm stubborn but didn't give up on me anyway. How I'm such a prude but never did you judge me. We had our differences, in our faith, outlooks on life but you never laughed. You had nothing but respect and understanding.
I will miss you Ryan and I want to thank you for everything. I will remember and carry those things you've told me...' You're one of the most wonderful people I know and you of all people deserve to have the good things in life. ' I wish you nothing but peace, may you be in peace wherever you are. You're gone too fast, too soon but you will never be forgotten.
From Ellie posted on 2009-02-04 00:21:28
My condolences to all of you!
Well, I knew Ryan since St Saviours when we used to walk home from school together... we lost touch after leaving Carisbrooke and got back in touch a year or so ago on Facebook, and he reminded me of the fact that I once named a rat after him!
He was always the one with something to say....and an answer for everything, however strange that answer might be! He will surely be missed.
From Angela posted on 2009-02-03 23:14:32
I'll never forget the day i arrived on your doorstep in a hopeless mess with my dissertation. You took me in, sat me down, fed me with brain food, and after a few kind words and some guidance, i was tapping out my dissertation in your lounge. I was a friend in need and you were a friend indeed.
For all the good times-our coffee trips and the natters we had, the films and books that kept us inspired, and our mutual desire to travel and learn.
Thank you Ryan,
I think its coffee on me?
From Helen Seward posted on 2009-02-03 23:05:06
My sincerest condolences to Ryan's family, Jeanette, Ami, Dave and Rhys.
I'd known Ryan since High School. We had been back in contact on Facebook for about a year. He regularly sent me witty and amusing comments and messages...they always made me smile. Sometimes sarcastic, sardonic, always witty, amusing but above all heartfelt and sweet.
I'll always remember when, when we were still at school he randomly turned up at my house one evening. No reason, just because he fancied. Strange evening, but funny. Typical Ryan!
He will be sadly missed.
From charlotte posted on 2009-02-03 22:39:33
i'll miss those stupid conversations on msn - some that made me laugh, some that made me think, and some to freak me out...its weird not having you there.
thanks for the times at uni. i would write a meaningful quote from murikami, but i dont know any.
just go steady